Many years ago, this proverb was introduced to me: People don’t want to be fixed. They want to be valued.
Tomorrow, as we gather with friends and loved ones, we will certainly be challenged, provoked, or even baited into trying to fix what we perceive to be wrong with one, or many of them. I encourage you to use this simple proverb as your thematic goal for the weekend, as well as the rest of the holiday season.
When hearing people say things that you perceive to be wrong, weird, or embarrassing, just remember that most of us don’t want to be fixed. As delusional, confused, or half-brained as they may appear to you, most, if not all, have positive intentions for their actions. Instead of placing judgment, find ways to value “who” that person is and what their best intentions are.
I challenge you to practice expressing gratitude with and for one another, to be mindful of how you invite others to join in sharing a meal, a conversation, a relationship, and to recognize the impact you have in being discerning vs. judgmental.
As we enter this holiday season, remember the words that we have heard from so many great leaders: “Be the change you want to see in others.”